Today I have many thoughts and things that need to be said and hope that no offense is taken because none is meant.
We all know Dad is dieing this has been known for some time. Death is the end result of our life here on earth.
I know that many of the family members choose either to believe in no God (or a higher power) or choose not to worship God for one reason or another And some of us choose to Believe and worship God. This is how Families are. ours is no exception to the rule. Dad and Mom Both chose to raise us in a faith they knew to be true. I hope we can all respect there wishes and beliefs at this time.
Growing up we were all so close so forgiving and enjoyed being around each other. I know it is Dads wishes that all of us attend his funeral and put aside our differences for a few days. He wanted us to do something fun together as a family in remembrance of him and Mom. To be able to find forgiveness with each other and heal as a family. yes it will mean having patience , understanding , tolerances and letting the little things go like water of a ducks back.
We cannot continue hurting and having anger one toward another it causes to much heart ache and pain for all of us. We are all Adults and most of us have adult children of our own and grand children. Let us all act like adults and move forward instead of backwards. I know I miss each and every one of you every day.
Dad is passing away soon. His vitals are dropping and his organs are starting to shut down. He has finally given himself permission to move on. I know he has herd from most of you and would love to hear from all of you I think it would benefit him to hear you tell him he can go and be with Mom and Heavenly Father. please call any time of night or day I have my phone on 24-7 and I will place the phone to his ear so you can have closure with him. My phone number is 217-357-4898.
Today the Hospice nurse was here we talked about Dad and his vitals and what is happening to him. She agrees with me that he is calm and peaceful and accepting that fact that he is dieing. He is happy in his environment and this is good. She tells me I am giving him exceptional care. it makes me feel good but I still wonder if there is more I can do. She assures me I am doing better than the best.
Dads kidneys are shutting down. His urine is the color of rust and smells so strong. This is normal. Today his heart rate is 38 thus his heart is slowing down. His blood pressure at 3:00 PM was 84/60 his respiratory was 20 and less. less because he is having long periods of apnea (also to be expected). The only food he can eat right now is Applesauce he chokes on everything else even pudding now. and liquids are not even an option anymore he chokes on 1 ml of water that I dissolve his medications in. Dad only eats at the most 1 cup of food a day, any more and he refuses. He is in pain off and on and I have morphine for him when he is in pain. (hospice nurse has helped me to know what to look for to know if he is in pain or not.) So as you can see it will not be long that dad will be with us. Ann (the hospice nurse) feels that when the time comes he will just quietly pass in his sleep. She does not feel he is actively dieing yet but it will not be long. could be a week or two or more. it is all up to Dad now.
I f any of you choose to come and see him I have plenty of room and you are welcome. I also have skype if you would like to see him that way. the account that is open most of the time is i_b_don
I sleep down on the couch in the room he is in so he is not alone and I can help him if needed.
All My Love to you. Jo Ellen